Mia Led Weaning

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Mama on Weaning:

Mia & Milk

Mia has always been a terrible eater. She used to spit her milk out, bat the bottle away and refuse to open her mouth. She would always drink the minimum amount of formula and she would go on feeding strikes. It was so hard, she was a small(ish) baby (6lb 7oz) and I wanted her to grow and thrive. I felt like I’d failed and a lot of tears were shed out of sheer frustration. It meant, however, that it came as no surprise when she didn’t turn out to be the biggest fan of food.

Mia & Food

I suspected I may have an issue with a fussy eater as I am referred to as a ‘fussitarian’ by my husband. This is one of the many reasons I tried baby led weaning. I’m pleased we did as it seems to have had a positive impact albeit we still have a typical toddler who can eat very poorly.

She also goes through phases where she loves something and then she hates it. I have chosen to carry on formula feeding (she is 18m).  I wonder if it is this, combined with my own food issues and her history with milk intake that has made me relaxed about her eating.

I do, however, have her weighed to ensure I don’t have anything growth-wise to worry about. I remember the worst thing about being a fussy child was the pressure to eat something that you really didn’t like or want for the sake of eating. It’s not healthy for a relationship with food to be a battle and I don’t believe it’s healthy for it to be a dictatorship either.

Mia on Weaning:

I have a little tummy and it fills up quickly. People are always trying to get me to eat more. Mama used to worry about it lots but I hardly ever feel hungry and if I do I let her know.  I point to my snack box or my highchair and she gives me some food. She wishes I’d eat some different types of food, like the green ones, but they don’t taste very nice to me.

Some days I feel hungry and other days I don’t, especially when I don’t feel well or my teeth hurt. Luckily Mama doesn’t try to make me eat, she offers me the food and if I say no she says “that’s OK “. That makes me feel better. I really love watermelon, it’s my favourite.  I’ve tried other things like strawberries, peaches and bananas but watermelon is the best. Toast is always nice too.

Sometimes I like to try new things, like the time Dada gave me some blueberries.  Mama said I wouldn’t eat them because she’d given them to me loads of times before but I ate them all up and then asked for more.  They were actually quite nice. The next day she offered me some more and I’d had enough of blueberries so I didn’t eat them. I just like to eat what’s yummy and sometimes that changes.

I like that Mama doesn’t get angry with me about it though, that would make me sad. I don’t mean to make her worry but it’s really not nice to put things that taste nasty or feel funny in my mouth.  Sometimes things feel funny at first but if you keep trying them they get better, so I’m sure when I’m a big girl I will eat lots of different foods.

 

Mama would love to hear from you if you have had food struggles with your kiddo too.

 

Mama Learning, Mia Teaching

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Mama’s Learning:

At my antenatal classes the health visitor asked us to rate how confident we were.  Most of us were first timers so the numbers hovered between 1 and 5. There was one lady, however, who was expecting her second and she said 8. I remember thinking that I couldn’t imagine ever getting to an 8.

I couldn’t believe the hospital were going to let me take a real live baby home with me because I had no idea what I was doing. If I had to take an exam in it I would get a big fat F.  I’d read books and articles of course; by nature I’m academic, but I there would be a million decisions a day for this little person and they can’t teach that in a book.

 

Well the truth is that I was right. No book or article can prepare you for motherhood or parenthood. I do have to make a million decisions a day.  I have also failed with a big fat F on occasion. But your child comes equipped to teach you and you will learn. Parenting really is learnt on the job and a large amount of the time through mistakes, but you get to know your child inside out over time. I am now in the privileged position of world expert on Mia and I would say that I’ve finally hit that 8.

Mia’s Teaching:

No one on earth knows me better than my Mama. Mama has got the degree in Mia and she’s got a first class one.

We have been together nearly 24/7 since I arrived in her tummy. She knows I nearly always reject my first mouthful of formula, she knows how to get me back to sleep if there’s a loud noise after I’ve just fallen asleep. Mama knows when I want a cuddle and when I want to be left alone. She knows when to rock me back to sleep and when to make me a bottle because I’ve woken up hungry. My Mummy knows the difference between when I call out in my sleep because I’m having an exciting dream and when I call out because it’s a nightmare. She knows that I don’t like my hair in my eyes and that I don’t like my nails cut. Mama knows to take me straight to the swings when we get to the park and she knows when I want to go home. She knows by the slightest change in my eyes whether I am happy or sad, angry or scared. My Mama knows how to make me giggle even if I’m grumpy.

She doesn’t need anyone else’s advice, she doesn’t need books or studies telling her how to be my mummy, all she needs is her #instinct and all we needed was #time.

The Tactical Mummy

Working Mama, Happy Mia

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Mama goes to work:

I have a necklace with an ‘M’ on it that I wear every day I go to work. One day, when I’m ready, I will take it off.  I’m going to put it away and when she’s old enough it will be Mia’s. I was really nervous about going back to work; my job is demanding and I was going back 4 days a week. Like lots of Mamas I wasn’t sure if I could be away from her for that long, but actually I was fine from day one. I adore my daughter and being with her but it is also wonderful to go and drink an entire cup of hot coffee (more or less) uninterrupted – I am an office manager so read ‘chief cook and bottle washer!’- and I can talk about Game of Thrones instead of Peppa Pig.

So often when women become mothers we lose ourselves in being Mummy, being Sue for a few hours 4 days a week really makes me feel much brighter and it helps me engage with Mia more. It certainly wouldn’t work for everyone and it’s not easy. The necklace symbolises so much to me; it’s the fact that no matter where I am or what I am doing she is always with me. It illustrates that I am walking around with my heart outside of my chest…5 miles away with her Grandparents. When I pass it on I hope it makes her think of her Mama every now and then.

Mia on Mama going to work:

Some days I have Mama all to myself, some days I have Dada and Mama which is fun and some days I am with Nana and Grandad. I used to have Mama every day and that was good too. They’re all different and they’re all fun. I like Nana and Grandad’s, they have different toys from at home and different places to explore. I have my own special chair there and Nana let’s me bounce on her bed. When Mama comes to get me she looks really excited to see me and I get really excited to see her. I did like it when I had just Mama to myself all the time, but she always tries to make sure we do fun things when it’s just me and her; we go to the park and watch other children and I go on the swings, or we go on adventures or to soft play.  She has more energy now and is happy a lot and that makes me feel happy too.